Can Christians always trust God?

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Its been almost 35 years since I received a phone call from our family pastor informing me my mom was in the hospital and he was on his way to pick me up.  Mom died seven days later.  I was 18 at the time and a senior in high school.  She left behind my Dad, my older sister, and my older brother.  I remember asking the question, “why”?

Since that day, as a pastor, I have been asked that question many times.  Sometimes, I still find myself asking it.  The fact is,this world can be a pretty tough place and throughout our lives we may experience the loss of a spouse, parent, and/or child.  We may suffer a lingering illness, get fired from a job, experience financial ruin, and have our share of broken relationships.  The list could go on and on.  Its during these times, we may begin to question God.  We may ask questions like, why did this happen to me or could God have prevented this.  We may wonder if God is really in control and if He is, why doesn’t He care about me.  We may even question if we can trust Him.

The simple answer is, “Yes.”  The truth is God’s Word reminds us that God in His love always wills what is best for us! God in his wisdom, always knows what is best! And, God in his sovereignty always brings it about! (Lamentations 3:37-38)

We can trust him, but, such trust may require change on our part.  We may have to put aside our feelings or misconceptions about God.  Don’t get me wrong, our feelings are wonderful, but, when they are at war with the truth, truth must prevail.  As for our misconceptions, I am reminded that if God does something, it’s right and if God says something, it’s true. As difficult as it is on this side of heaven, we can’t always understand God’s will.   Some things are just a mystery!  But, what we can do is remember that the same  God who created all things, sustains all things.  We can remember this same God who is not just just creator and sustainer loved us enough to send His only Son to die that we might have eternal life with Him and gives us His Spirit to dwell in us as a comfort and guide during all of our days.

I recognize these are tough words to read, believe me, they are tough words to write.  They kind of shake our faith.  However,they are true and right.  Sometimes, I still wonder why Mom had to die so young and I am sure you have your own questions.

So, when we find ourselves questioning God and His ways, we need to cling to the truth of His Word.  He is faithful. He is true.  He love us.  He has and will always say and do what is best!  That’s who He is: A God who can be trusted!

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A message for husbands about your wife:

Husands love your wives
Listed below are 5 ways to love your wife.  Your wife may never mention any of these.  Whether, she does or doesn’t, she still needs you to do them!
  1. Words: Tell her how much you appreciate all she does.  Tell her you love her.  Tell her how awesome she is. She needs to hear it.
  2. Focus: Give her your undivided attention.  Turn off the TV, put down the phone, close the laptop.  Instead, sit together at the table or in the backyard, take a walk.
  3. Alone Time: Especially needed during the child-rearing years.  You put the children to bed.  You clean the dishes.  She may want to read.  She may want to have coffee with friend(s).  Don’t just ask her if she needs alone time, encourage it!  She needs it!
  4. Romance: Not Sex.  May lead to sex and it may not.  Romance means planning and doing something with your wife she will enjoy and feel loved. You find a sitter.  You ask her out.  You open the door.  Treat her special, because, she is.
  5. Teamwork: Don’t wait to be asked, rather ask, how can I help?  It may involve cooking, cleaning, laundry, your children.  She is your best friend!  Be there for her!

How to resolve an argument?

Arguing

Step 1: Pray together for God’s guidance

Step 2: Select a time to discuss the matter.  Not when you’re hungry or tired

Step 3: Try to see the conflict from your spouse’s point of view

Step 4: Remember God opposes the proud, but, gives grace to the humble

Step 5: Ask for forgiveness for wrong attitudes, assumptions, hurtful words, destructive behavior

Step 6: Decide on a good strategy for the next take you and your spouse have a conflict

Step 7: Pray together

Definition of Marriage

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Yesterday, nine men and women in black robes decided to redefine marriage in the USA.  Well, it was 5 out of 9.  Today, I attended a wedding of two incredible young adults (one was a man and the other was a woman).  As passages of scripture were read, I was thinking, the meaning of marriage has not changed.  Marriage is still the joining together of a man and a woman.  Marriage is still a lifelong covenant to be lived according to God’s Holy Word.  Marriage is still a picture of Jesus Christ (The Groom) and His Church (The Bride).

It really doesn’t matter how men or women define marriage, even if they have nice robes.  After all, I have a nice black robe.  The truth is: God created marriage and he wrote the definition for marriage.  So, if we need the definition for marriage, we can find it in His dictionary-The Bible.

Is it time to get married?

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Do you believe its time to get married? Have you found that special man or woman with whom you want to spend the rest of your life? I’ve listed below some questions to ask before you say I Do:

1. Will the person I am marrying better enable me to become more like Christ, than if I remained single.

2. Am I willing to love my future spouse in accordance to the Bible’s teaching?

3. Am I willing to commit myself to him or her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health?

4. Am I willing to be steadfast in fidelity and servant-hearted in ministry?

5. Is God leading our lives in similar directions?

6. Have I prayed about this and sought Biblical counsel?

7. Do we have similar goals and ideas about children?

8. Is he or she genuinely committed to God and determined to obey the Bible?

9. Is he or she willing to repent of his or her sins when pointed out?

10. Is he or she eager or willing to forgive sins?

11. Is he or she willing to commit to me based on the Biblical standard of what God requires?

12. Is he willing to love me as Christ loves the Church and is she willing to honor and respect me in the Lord.

13. AM I READY TO GIVE A LOVE THAT IS WORTHY OF MARRIAGE!!! A self-sacrificing love?

If you can answer yes to the above questions and your future husband and wife can too, it might be time to say,

I Do!

What’s wrong with my marriage?

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G.K. Chesterton once responded to a newspaper article inviting readers all over the globe to answer the age-old question, “What’s wrong with the world?”  His reply was brief and to the point, “I am.”  What’s the greatest problem in any marriage?  Its not your spouse, its you.  However, there is hope.  The solution is do for your spouse what God did for you in Jesus.

What’s wrong with my marriage?

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G.K. Chesterton once responded to a newspaper article inviting readers all over the globe to answer the age-old question, “What’s wrong with the world?”  His reply was brief and to the point, “I am.”  What’s the greatest problem in any marriage?  Its not your spouse, its you.  However, there is hope.  The solution is do for your spouse what God did for you in Jesus.